The Change Effect - Inspiration and Strategies for Creating Success on Your Own Terms
The Change Effect helps you turn life transitions into powerful new beginnings one story, one shift, one breakthrough at a time.
Your host, Noelle Van – a leadership coach and change strategist, spent years in corporate America helping innovators and leaders break through barriers to create success on their own terms – she now works with women to step into change to create a life they love.
Whether you're putting yourself at the center of your own story, redefining success or making a power pivot in your life, career or business - you're in the right place.
Each week, we dive into conversations with trailblazers, change-makers, and everyday women experiencing the ripple effects that come from overcoming the fear and doing it anyway. Providing actionable steps, practical strategies, and a whole lot of fun along the way.
The Change Effect - Inspiration and Strategies for Creating Success on Your Own Terms
E153: When People Pleasing Stops Working: Learning to Tell the Truth
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People pleasing always starts with good intentions
It's a strategy that helped us navigate relationships, workplaces, and expectations throughout our lives. Over time, though, what once served us can become exhausting.
In this episode, we're talking about what happens when you stop arranging yourself around everyone else's needs and begin paying attention to your own.
We'll explore the guilt, the pushback, the identity shifts, and ultimately the freedom that comes from becoming more fully yourself.
In this episode:
• Understanding the roots of people pleasing
• Why guilt is a normal part of growth
• How relationships shift when you change
• Identity after people pleasing
• Building trust in your own judgment
If you've spent years making yourself easy for everyone else, I hope this episode offers a different perspective. Small, honest choices have a way of changing the direction of our lives, and every boundary you set is an opportunity to build a more authentic relationship with yourself and the people around you.
If you want to go a bit deeper on this, I've attached a simple exercise for you called The YES Audit, to help you see where people pleasing shows up for you and how to overcome it's pull.
Download: 🖊️ The YES Audit HERE
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